How clear is our perspective as outsiders? Is it really that we don't see the personal drama between a couple, that we're blind to the important factors. Or is it that we see passed the bullshit? Don't we see them at their best?
Probably not. There's a reason its called "between me and you". Because we all know that everyone knowing your business only results in more opinions which always leads to more confusion than any real solutions.
However isn't it important for us to step outside of ourselves if only for a moment and acknowledge what everyone else may see. Often it is so difficult for us to look beyond ourselves. Especially women. We spend so much time solidifying our standards and values that we get stubborn.
Relationshsips are clearly more than just sex or pleasant conversation or someone to go out with. Relationships (real realtionships) are fucking work. At some point there has to be some recognition that you are dealing with another preson, another human being. With thoughts and feeling and wants and (most importantly) fears. How dare you put your foot down! How dare you not consider these things. You wouldn't engage any other animal without knowing something about it first, without respecting it. So why not your significant other who is equal to you (hopefully) in intelligence.
Tread carefully.
Relationships are work and anyone who tells you different is lying to you.More than likely you are in a relationship because you want to be, not because you have to be. Remember that you can always bounce. You can always forfeit. Its the staying that's hard. Its recognizing and deciding that you are willing to fight for this person. Even if that means going toe to toe with their drama, maybe even their insecurities. Even if it means combating with your own insecurities.
I mean honestly- realistically- who want to be easily won? Most people (at least all my readers) want to feel some type of value. A woman likes when her man sees her as something he's earned, regadrs her as a hard-won prize. Not in the shallow sense of course, but in the sense that she was worth the fight.
Having survived the fight, isn't it a valuable moment when you take your relationship and analyze the full picture. Is the potential of "me and you" worth the pain? Is there potential? These are important questions that require you to be somehwhat objective. Can you really just decide, I don't need this shit or should you wait it out? How long do you wait it out? Do you keep looking for the light at the end of the tunnel?
Meh?
Honestly, I don't freaking know. You lookin' for advice? Came to the wrong site honey...
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